14 and Pregnant - The Saga Continues
Amazing that I still get comments to my rant about the 14 year old pregnant girl. Before all of your pregnant teens jump down my throat screaming "RAPE" (since you all obviously think that EVERY pregnant 14 year olds was raped); Keep in mind that the original post did say that the father of said pregnant girl came into the store with her. I doubt if she was raped the father would be there.
this 14 yr. old WOMAN is not stupid or anything.
Uh, justify that please. How does having a kid when you are not even out of high school considering even remotely a smart idea? Unlike yourself, I would prefer to get an education and get a JOB so I can be financially stable enough to give that kid the best life I could. Somehow I don't see this person accomplishing that.
14 yr old girls have desires and wants too.
Thats fine, I also have a desire and a want to not PAY for this child because the mother is an idiot. She should DESIRE to use a condom or some of the 100 billion forms of birth control. She should DESIRE to not cave into peer pressure and let some douchy fag tell her he'll pull out in time. Plus you call her a WOMAN in your previous sentence, and a GIRL in this one. Stay consistent with your terminology please, you are just making yourself look like a bigger idiot than you already do. Choose one, GIRL or WOMAN. I am using GIRL because she is in fact that.
and her parents.. what are they supossed to do be mad at her the rest of her god willing life?? huh? well if i had a daughter and she got pregnant at 14, i apsolutley know i would be very upset and disapointed but i wouldn't show it around other people. and you would forgive ur daughter if that happened and you know it!
Being tolerant and forgiving is not expressing delight in front of other people. If I had a 14 year old daughter and she got knocked up, I would feel shame every time I went into public with her. Yeah, call me a hard ass but I would raise my child to be smarter than that. The chances of a 14 year old actually being successful in this day and age is close to nil. Not saying that it can't be done, but most 14 year olds do not have the mental strength and determination to make it. Sorry if you don't agree, but I'll give you 100 examples of pregnant teens on the system for your 1 that actually makes it.
people make mistakes wheather they mean to or not they are just PEOPLE not PROPERTY. and you have prob made a mistake too.
I dont make mistakes that last 18 years and become a financial burden. We aren't talking about something that is unpreventable either. This is a completely preventable problem that takes a bit of common sense, 2 seconds of prep time, and a basic knowledge. Oh, and once you are on the state program I do consider you to be property. The state pays for you, the state owns you. If the state wants you to go pick up garbage and plant trees for 8 hours a day then you should have to. If you don't like it, get off of welfare.
plus why is it any of ur business if she wants to have sex and gets pregnant. its not ur life so why don't you just but the fuck out of her business and worry about yourself. F.Y.I - when a girl first gets a period they turn into a woman. smarty.
Uh, I have to pay for said female and her crotchfruit now for the rest of their lives. All because the mother could not use preventable measures. So yeah, it does effect me, it effects all of us. Obviously from your horrible spelling you are either a teenager or someone who obviously did not finish school because you had a child at an early age. I wont hold this against you however, you just hammered my point home far greater than you could ever imagine.
Thank you for letting me know that when a girl gets a period she becomes a woman. I had no idea. All this time I thought that girls were in fact girls until they GREW UP enough to make smart decisions and support themselves. Getting knocked up at 14 not grown up, and not making a smart decision. This isn't the 1920's where you had children (and got married at 14) so you could have WORKERS for your farm. If you had two braincells in that empty noggin of yours you wouldn't be defending this girl fully knowing that in this day an age an education is everything. If you want to throw your future away over an orgasm thats fine, just don't do it on the dime of all of us who had a bit more common sense and foresight.
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A pragmatic, rational, objective, moderately callous, and completely effective post. I wonder what it feels like to look back on life and realize that the world would have preferred it if you had never existed, to know that the moment that sperm and egg met is a moment the universe regrets.
All people do is make excuses. Welfare programs inhibit Social Darwinism in order to uphold Christian guilt. I say let them fail.
Grown up when you get your first period? Pfft, I was 10. Does that mean I was a woman at age 10? Geez, I'm 37 and sometimes wonder if I'm a grown up, now I find out I've been a grown woman since I was 10!
Some people's children............
Actually, if the girl HAD been raped by someone OTHER than her own father, it makes perfect sense for him to be with her for appointments and whatnot. She's still a kid, she needs strong parents, and the grandfather will be the only decent man in the kids' life for many years, or possibly always. But that second sentence is also true if was consensual sex with another kid or irresponsible older male.
(Most fathers of babies born to teenage mothers are 5-7 years older than the girls they knock up. In most states, that would be statutory rape when the mother is 14. But it's not rape in the usual sense--girls are very willing to do stupid things to keep the attentions of older men, because that gives them higher status in the eyes of their peers. Hey, I used to be a 14-year-old girl back last century...and the guys I went to high school with are still dating high school girls because they're easy and don't expect much.)
And yeah, if she's expecting us to pay for raising the child via the government, it immediately becomes our business. Don't want us getting in your face? Stop taking our money. I got nothing to say about Jamie Lynn Spears; she's working and rich enough to pay for it all herself so none of my business.
So THIS is where 50% of my paycheck goes every 2 weeks...What a crock of shit.
In my 3rd year of pharmacy school, we had to take an ethics class. At the end of the semester, we had to pick a controversial topic and argue it with the rest of our small groups (about 10-12 students).
Anyways, I chose "Mandatory birth control for females on State Welfare." Someone please tell me why this WOULDN'T work?? Obviously, oral tablets wouldn't (err, DON'T --> see Medicaid's "family planning" we have going on right now) due to the fact that most patients have terrible compliance issues). My idea was a simple one. Depo those bitches every 3 months. If they don't show up for their depo-provera every 3 months, guess what, CUT THE FUCK OFF OF MEDICAID. I think its a win-win. This would totally cut down on unwanted births, and anyone who doesn't follow the rules gets kicked out of the system. And it'd be their own damn fault.
Oh you horrible brute! You called the coming blessed event a crotch fruit. I sorta like another pharmacy bloggers term, "fuck trophies",better.
excuse me? you become a woman when you get your period, huh? and which scientific/medical journal did she get that bold statement from? i didn't know that just because your hormones start flying around it means you're suddenly a grown up. sorry, i don't qualify an 8-year-old girl who gets her period to be a "woman." i don't consider most GIRLS my age (21) to be "women." but if you're so convinced that you're a woman at that age, perhaps you should start acting like one. perhaps our parents should throw us out of the house and we should support ourselves as soon as menstruation begins. we should get married right then and start raising families. oh wait. this isn't 1650.
MANDATORY fucking sterilization or you don't get "the card". $5000 bonus cash if you ID the daddy, verified by DNA testing. If daddy is on the card, snip snip. If daddy won't pay for the little bastard, snip snip.
I must say, between the people who write you emails like that and the 14 year old that's preggers, you've got quite the argument for forced sterilization.
I have no tolerance for stupid people. Why am I in the healthcare field again?
(PS long time reader...love the blog)
Crotchfruit! HA! I am so stealing that!
People that groan to accept 14 year old's pregnancies are probably the same idiots that support fresh needs for heroine addicts.
It just.. makes my head hurt.
Where are parents??
Keep the good posts coming....You make my day feel so much less painfully hard!
1yearoldpharmd, you must be a man. Are you aware that very few women who get a Depo shot return for a second one? That drug has some very unpleasant side effects - weight gain, headaches, bleeding, etc. - and unlike the Pill, if this happens, you're stuck with it for 3 months. It's commonly used after childbirth because they don't have to think about it while caring for their baby, and has no estrogen so it doesn't dry up breast milk.
There are people for whom I wouldn't mind that they be involuntarily sterilized, but its abuses in the past make that extremely unethical.
The fact of the father being with her I believe to be a good sign. There is nothing I despise more than righteous people without kids who pronounce how "their children will never do this or will do that...". Having kids makes you realize what an asshole you sounded like before you had them, and how wrong you were to think you could actually control what they do. As parents you can influence what your kids do, how they will feel about themselves, what they are exposed to, but you will not control their every action, and if you think you have control of their actions-you are a fool. But I do believe that we need to help anyone in this situation that has the potential to make something of themselves, otherwise they both (or more) will be on the tab forever.
Ha, I loved the "girl becomes a woman when she gets her period" comment. Girls can get their period at 8 or 9 years of age. I have also heard of "girls" getting pregnant as early as 9 years old. I guess these would be considered women as well... *rollseyes*
The world's record for youngest parents is a 5 year old girl and a 6 year old boy in South America somewhere.